Welcome to Part 33 of the series "Dear Future Spouse." It's time to savor the holidays! Great food! Great family memories! Healthy Communication! A loving God! These are real people who are writing to their future King and Queen. They do not personally know each other, but they are getting to know each other through the letters. Each week, you will find a response to the letter before. So, grab some coffee, tea, or tissue, and enjoy! Tell us what you think!
Dear Future Wife,
How are you my love? I’m hoping and praying that your week is going well thus far! Thank you for being so transparent. I am so happy that we are working towards establishing a healthy communication system where both of us can be heard. I understand what it feels like to not have the opportunity to be heard or heard correctly. I vow with everything within me to do all I can to always make sure you are provided a safe space to express yourself.
Moving forward, when it comes to family staying in our household, it’s tricky. By all means, we want to be there to support our families at necessary times. Just as important, we have to be mindful of our household’s (wife and children) needs as well. I wouldn’t have a problem with family staying with us, especially if they are trying to get on their feet. I can definitely understand lending a warm home to family in need because my family has been there for me in times of need, and it’s only right to do the same if we can.
Now, here is the tricky part. Sometimes, family will try to take advantage of your generosity. They can become complacent, lazy, and try to live off you; if that is allowed, it definitely can create unhappy living quarters. For that reason, I feel it’s important to make our family comfortable and be supportive, but they must also have a plan, goals, and a timeline for getting back on their feet to find a place of residence. On the other hand, if our family is sick and unable to take care of themselves, I would want us to be there for them. However, I understand that if we’re unable to provide the necessary resources then we can try to find other avenues to help our family. I have even contemplated the idea of having family stay together in a spacious house, so that all of us won’t be on top of each other and have privacy when needed. What are your thoughts on that matter, my love?
My Queen, I can’t wait until we are able to go somewhere–perhaps the park or a nice lounge spot. Also, I would love to have a picnic or have a cup of coffee or hot chocolate to just enjoy each other while having these conversations. Soon….Soon….
Unconditional Love,
Your Future Husband
