Welcome to Part 11 of the series "Dear Future Spouse." These are real people who are writing to their future King and Queen. They do not personally know each other, but they are getting to know each other through the letters. Each week, you will find a response to the letter before. So, grab some coffee, tea, or tissue, and enjoy! Tell us what you think!
Dear Future Wife,
I am so overjoyed to hear that the last letter I wrote blessed you! It is always a blessing to be a blessing, especially when it comes to you my queen. Yes, I try my best to allow God to flow through me in everything I do. Also, like you, I have never been wealthy when it comes to finance, but the beauty in that is: you learn to appreciate what you have, and do your best with what you’re given until God trust you with more. I believe when you have two individuals in a relationship with the same mindset and goals to achieve (financial, physical, mental, or spiritual things) life becomes a little easier. Also, you are right when it comes to not overlooking spiritual goals. We can get so caught up in acquiring money and other materialistic valuables that we lose sight of God and His purpose for our lives. Also, I’m looking forward to hearing more about your “Thy Will Be Done” vision board!
In reference to your story on the importance of being in agreement, I was dating this young lady, and I proposed we create goals to work towards in our relationship. Sadly her reply was: “I have already done my goals, so I don’t see why we have to set any goals together.” Now, that was a hit to the heart and I felt (still do feel) that it was important for a couple to establish an identity. How do you feel about setting relationship goals or having relationship check-ups to view what each other is thinking and feeling currently in the relationship?
Thoughts on submission…
Moving forward, to address your question on how can husbands and wives reconcile the principle of submission with the outside world giving us such a contradictory advice. First, it comes down to the individual’s belief system (Do they believe in God and Jesus Christ?) because the world is always going to have a different viewpoint on the decrees and commands of God. So if some people don’t believe in them, it’s going to be hard to address this issue. Secondly, I look to what God states to us in Ephesians 5:22-25 (verses 21-33 in its entirety):
“Wives submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her…”
I believe God created the husband to be the head, protector, and visionary, and for the wife to be the helpmate in marriage. Indeed, God gives women amazing gifts as well as fills all of you with purpose to accomplish great feats in this life, but at end of the day, the husband is still the head of the household. So if anything bad ever happens to her (spiritually, mentally, or physically) God deals with the husband not the wife. Of course, there are some women who are like: “Bumped that I make my own money, have my own car and house, pay my own bills, and I’m not submitting to any man.” Well in that case I say: Go talk to God and see what He says about marriage. On the opposite hand, the husband must also uphold what God says it means to be a husband. What is sooooo dope about Jesus is: He walks the walk, talks the talk. Jesus never expects anything of us that He won’t give first. Likewise, we as men must strive to walk in all ideals of God/Jesus. Additionally, when we act outside of the purpose God meant for husband (protector & visionary) and wife (helpmate) it never works out, or at least works to the level God expects of marriage.
In conclusion, I am looking forward to hearing your response to this letter. Truly, I am excited to meet you one day and share the rest of my life with you. Whether we always agree on things or not (at first), I look forward to spending every single day possible with you. God has blessed me with the chance to truly know your heart in and out. Love you my queen!
Until Next Time,
Your Future Husband!
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Tune in for next week’s post- To Him: Part 12.
If you missed last week’s “To Him: Part 10,” tune in HERE.
