Welcome to Part 14 of the series "Dear Future Spouse." These are real people who are writing to their future King and Queen. They do not personally know each other, but they are getting to know each other through the letters. Each week, you will find a response to the letter before. So, grab some coffee, tea, or tissue, and enjoy! Tell us what you think!
Dear Future Husband,
I am so proud of you already for the wonderful father you are preparing yourself to be. Conversations about becoming parents even if it’s years down the line are necessary because I don’t want to fall in love with a man who cannot love, protect or parent the children we bring forth into this world. Thank you for your openness and being willing to break a generational cycle of what you experienced when it comes to fatherhood.
As for your questions regarding a few of my favorite things: traveling and courting. I’ve been to half of the states and have set a goal to get that number to 30 within the next two 
years. I plan on visiting Hawaii; Chicago, IL; Maryland; and Maine. Internationally, I can mark Mexico, Japan, and Argentina off my list. The next few international trips that are calling my name are in the Caribbean: Jamaica, Trinidad and Tobago, Haiti, Cuba, and Puerto Rico.
When it comes to being courted, I think of myself as very easy to please. My father passed when I was 19, and I would tell guys who would express interest in me that if my father was 53 and still opening car doors for me, you certainly can too. Outside of that “demand,” I can easily go with the flow. I do enjoy the opportunity to get dressed up in heels for a nice dinner, but my feet are also very grateful when you show up with take out from my favorite restaurant and we binge on TVLand shows. My love language is quality time, and I value that above everything else. Do you know your love language? If not, try this quiz and I would love to know.
The fears I’m working to overcome when I think of marriage is the fear of failure. My parents were married 22 years until my mother passed. They really did it until death parted them. I had such wonderful role models of commitment, but the world around us almost glorifies divorce with TMZ, Divorce Court, and any supermarket tabloid. I have to find a way to block out the external noise and have faith that you and I can work through anything and be the exception to what seems to be becoming the norm.
I pray my letter finds you in good spirits, and if you were having a rough day, knowing that I am thinking of you has brightened it.
With love,
Your Future Wife
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Fellas and Ladies, what are your love languages? What are some of your top ways that you enjoy receiving and giving love?
Tune in for next week’s post- For Her: Part 15.
If you missed last week’s “For Her: Part 13,” tune in HERE.
