Welcome to Part 31 of the series "Dear Future Spouse." It's time to savor the holidays! Great food! Great family memories! Healthy Communication! A loving God! These are real people who are writing to their future King and Queen. They do not personally know each other, but they are getting to know each other through the letters. Each week, you will find a response to the letter before. So, grab some coffee, tea, or tissue, and enjoy! Tell us what you think!
Dear Future Wife,
How are you my love? I pray all is well your way on this day. I don’t know if your grandmother is still in town, but I hope you enjoyed the love given and shared between the both of you. It is a blessing to be able to learn from our elders and give them their roses while they are alive!
I must say that I was not surprised about what your friend’s partner stated when it comes to whose job it is to initiate intimacy and sex because there are plenty of men with that mindset; of course, not all men, but there is still a good bit though. As for myself, I definitely disagree with your friend’s partner statement. I’m a firm believer in sharing the wealth! I love the fact that I will have the privilege of being intimate with you–from foreplay with you at the beginning of the day to the sexual encounter towards the end. It’s exciting for me to not only be able to stimulate you spiritually, mentally, and physically, but also, making love to you embodies all of those things which will make for wonderful experiences! Moreover, my goal is to always keep you wanting more of me, and I, you.
My Queen, I always want you to hear, understand, and most importantly see how my actions line up with my words. Although I would love to constantly come home to a great home-cooked meal, a clean house, my bath or shower being ran, and topped off with orgasmic sexual encounters, I know that you desire the same. So, it is important to me to let you know what’s mine is yours, yours mine. It’s my duty to not only provide for my queen, but also shepherd our household. Just as you work hard, I will work harder for you and with you.
My love, when it comes to us having conflict at times in our marriage, I want us to be able to sit down, listen, and talk to each other. It is important to continue to create a safe and honest space to express our feelings in a productive light. Yes, we will have disagreements. Yes, we will agitate each other at times. Yet, we should never end our day without settling the matter or matters that plague us. We are a team…when you are excited or happy, I’m excited and happy. Likewise, when you are sad or hurt, I’m sad and hurt as well. I want you to always feel free to open up to me and not shut down. When you shut down, I’m left trying to figure out what’s wrong. Also, if you need some space for a little while or a moment to cool off, I will honor that. No matter how hard it may be at times, I believe we have to always keep a clear line of communication. For better or worse, I will forever and always love you and be here for you!
In closing, I want to say that it was great to be able to discuss how we want to express our love in a physical way via words. I have two questions for you:
- How can I assist you with creating intimate and/or sexual moods for you (e.g., massages, role play, conversation, etc)?
- What makes you reclusive and bottle things up when conflicts arise and how can I assist you in those moments?
Unconditional Love,
Your Future Husband
