Welcome to Part 9 of the series "Dear Future Spouse." These are real people who are writing to their future King and Queen. They do not personally know each other, but they are getting to know each other through the letters. Each week, you will find a response to the letter before. So, grab some coffee, tea, or tissue, and enjoy! Tell us what you think!
Dear Future Wife,
It is always a pleasure to read your words, and you have definitely added goodness to my spirit. Indeed the world can be a lonely place at times, but going through those lonely moments help prepare us to look deep within ourselves, so tha,t we can become whole in Christ, and for each other. I love your essential qualities. God has not just given you some, but “All” the essential qualities you need to be an “Amazing” wife, my Queen! There is nothing you can’t do, overcome, or achieve! I look forward to each day we can grow stronger together in God’s knowledge, wisdom, understanding, and insight!
To listen is to learn, to communicate is to grow…
Yes, it is so easy to get caught up in one’s own perspective, and the truth is: We are just trying to figure out the right decisions that will lead us towards God’s purpose as husband and wife. Thank you for being nurturing. It’s an amazing feeling for me to be able to open up all my heart to you–not having to always to put up a front. I can rely on you while I bare all of my truth, and I can rely on you to always being there to care for me with your words of encouragement, touch, and caress. Thank you for cheering me on as well. It’s so amazing to have someone in your corner that will go hard for you always. Also, thank you for being my strength when I have moments of weakness. I love, honor, and appreciate you dearly!
A Good Wife…
Continuing, you asked what I think will make a good wife; below are my thoughts on that subject matter:
- Is she a God fearing woman?
- Does she believe in God and Jesus Christ (Is she saved)?
- How is her intimate relationship with God?
- Does she have Spiritual Goals?
- Is she passionately after God’s heart?
- Is she in a continued process of surrendering to God?
- Is she respected by her peers and community?
- Do we have similar outlooks on Family Life (How many kids does she want, how would she want to raise them, etc.)?
- Does she encourage people?
- Does she serve others?
- Does she possess the wisdom of God?
- Is she a helpmate?
These are my important foundational beliefs in what I look for in a wife. Of course, there are more, but those are the ones that come to mind right now.
As for my fears in marriage they are:
- Not being able to protect my wife/family
- Not being able to provide for my wife/family
I think these two fears go for so many men as well. These are definitely our two biggest fears. Also, I would never want my wife to have to work–only if she desires, due to whatever plans God has for her and whatever gifts God has for her to share with the world.
they shall become one…
Now, when it comes to separate bank accounts again, I look to God and the Bible where it states in Genesis 2:24: “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one.” To me having separate bank accounts is not showing the oneness God desires. I feel like if you’re my wife, and I’m your husband then what’s yours is mine and what’s mine is yours. We are making a vow to become one flesh before God. There are so many conversations going on about this topic, and some people feel like: “Well if I work hard to earn my money, then I should be able to do what I want with my money, and I shouldn’t have to get permission from my husband or wife before spending my money.” Also, some people may state: “I want to put together a prenuptial agreement if I come into this marriage with a significant amount of money, etc.” My reply to comments such as these is: Well, we should really consider if we should get married, and what God defines a marriage to be. If we aren’t willing to become one in “ALL” areas of our marriage (spiritually, mentally, physically, and yes financially) then we shouldn’t marry.
I hope this letter has given you a deeper insight into who I am and what I believe. Furthermore, I look forward to hearing your responses to this letter my queen. I pray that you have an amazing day, week, month, year and lifetime. Likewise, I pray for your protection and that God continues leading you towards achieving great feats in this life. Equally important, I look forward to spending the rest of my life with you as my soulmate. For you are the one God took his precious time creating just for me. You are my rib, my heart, my love, my all, and no one can or will ever take your place!
Love,
Your Future Husband
Comment below.
Fellas, what are some questions that you have for your future wife/current wife?
Ladies, what are your fears concerning marriage?
Tune in for next week’s post- To Him: Part 10.
If you missed last week’s “To Him: Part 8,” tune in HERE.
